I posted a comment to another blog just a while ago and my own words got me to thinking. Everyone that reads the blogs regularly knows that I am not long out of a long, off and on, bad relationship. I was asked, after I had written a comment on a blog, to show my profile again. I guess I must have said something right that day, but if not for being asked to do it I would still have my profile hid. I know I am not ready for love yet, I have talked to some great ladies on this site and have become friends with a few, but I think they also know I am not ready. I am happy to say I am still getting better everyday and like I have said before I know I will get there.
Now to the point,(I bet you were wondering if there was one lol) how many of you are here, on a dating site, but you are not really ready to date yet? I know I would not be here yet if I had not already been a member before my nine month mistake. Some of you know I did date during the two years between the divorce and her coming back but I wasn't ready. I even dated one lady from this site for eleven months of those two years, lucky for me she NOW understands that I wasn't ready and she and I have become friends, besides she found the man of her dreams she said so I guess it was good I wasn't there when that happened.:)
I do not expect anyone to answer this one to the LF world but ask yourself: How's your heart? Are you really ready to love again? There is nothing wrong with seeing what's out there and making friends to try to become more later but are you really ready?
I posted a comment to another blog just a while ago and my own words got me to thinking. Everyone that reads the blogs regularly knows that I am not long out of a long, off and on, bad relationship. I was asked, after I had written a comment on a blog, to show my profile again. I guess I must have said something right that day, but if not for being asked to do it I would still have my profile hid. I know I am not ready for love yet, I have talked to some great ladies on this site and have become friends with a few, but I think they also know I am not ready. I am happy to say I am still getting better everyday and like I have said before I know I will get there.
Now to the point,(I bet you were wondering if there was one lol) how many of you are here, on a dating site, but you are not really ready to date yet? I know I would not be here yet if I had not already been a member before my nine month mistake. Some of you know I did date during the two years between the divorce and her coming back but I wasn't ready. I even dated one lady from this site for eleven months of those two years, lucky for me she NOW understands that I wasn't ready and she and I have become friends, besides she found the man of her dreams she said so I guess it was good I wasn't there when that happened.:)
I do not expect anyone to answer this one to the LF world but ask yourself: How's your heart? Are you really ready to love again? There is nothing wrong with seeing what's out there and making friends to try to become more later but are you really ready?
Well Tom I have given this some thought and have to personally say say that yes I am ready, though I do not always feel that way.
Having been on here several times now after a relationship did not work out, I do have to say that I have felt like I was sitting on the edges, saying I wanted to jump in the water, but only putting my toes in to get a feel of it.
It was not till I actually met someone special again, that I felt like jumping in and going for that swim.
I am not sure if our hearts are really ready or mended after being broken, UNTIL it is filled again with feeling of love and hope.
Well Tom I have given this some thought and have to personally say say that yes I am ready, though I do not always feel that way.
Having been on here several times now after a relationship did not work out, I do have to say that I have felt like I was sitting on the edges, saying I wanted to jump in the water, but only putting my toes in to get a feel of it.
It was not till I actually met someone special again, that I felt like jumping in and going for that swim.
I am not sure if our hearts are really ready or mended after being broken, UNTIL it is filled again with feeling of love and hope.
I actually had this thought today when I went for a "meeting" with someone. I didn't have much fun or charisma during the whole time because I was thinking about someone else.
I guess I'm not ready to date yet unless I'm totally "in like" with someone that'll help me get over the someone now.
But then again, if I keep myself away, that guy might just come by looking for me and I'm not around for him to catch me.
Just a thought. :)
Hey Tom,
I actually had this thought today when I went for a "meeting" with someone. I didn't have much fun or charisma during the whole time because I was thinking about someone else.
I guess I'm not ready to date yet unless I'm totally "in like" with someone that'll help me get over the someone now.
But then again, if I keep myself away, that guy might just come by looking for me and I'm not around for him to catch me.
