I have been told and read that being overweight is an attempt to avoid relationships and intimacy by building a wall around yourself. I seriously thought about this until a real friend sent me this quote;
'"I have built a wall
Not to block anyone out
But to see who loves me enough
to climb over it"
Good one Root, and Deva. I like all these perspectives. It's interesting to see how many interpretations there are of this old quote. And, I think it goes to show WHY so many relationships between men and women break down: we are SO different. And sometimes, we just can't bring ourselves around to the other person's way of thinking! ;) --True
Quoting: Originally posted by bluegirl2006 I like the quote, but I'm not so sure its true. I know I had emotional walls, but my fiance didn't climb them or force them down.
Intead he stood outside them patiently, lovingly and endlessly. ...
Oh wow, Blue ... you really nailed it. That's perfect! :) more...
Quoting: Originally posted by bluegirl2006 I like the quote, but I'm not so sure its true. I know I had emotional walls, but my fiance didn't climb them or force them down.
Intead he stood outside them patiently, lovingly and endlessly. As time went by and I learned to love and trust him and realized he wasn't going anywhere I took my own walls down. Slowly. Brick by brick. Until there were no more walls between us and we were free to have this wonderful, happy, healthy and mature relationship that has slowly lead up to our upcoming marriage.
Now he IS my brick wall. Not between us, but there for me to lean on when I can't stand on my own.
I hope you find someone with the love and patience to wait for you to take your own walls down.
Oh wow, Blue ... you really nailed it. That's perfect! :) less...
I like the quote, but I'm not so sure its true. I know I had emotional walls, but my fiance didn't climb them or force them down.
Intead he stood outside them patiently, lovingly and endlessly. As time went by and I learned to love and trust him and realized he wasn't going anywhere I took my own walls down. Slowly. Brick by brick. Until there were no more walls between us and we were free to have this wonderful, happy, healthy and mature relationship that has slowly lead up to our upcoming more...
I like the quote, but I'm not so sure its true. I know I had emotional walls, but my fiance didn't climb them or force them down.
Intead he stood outside them patiently, lovingly and endlessly. As time went by and I learned to love and trust him and realized he wasn't going anywhere I took my own walls down. Slowly. Brick by brick. Until there were no more walls between us and we were free to have this wonderful, happy, healthy and mature relationship that has slowly lead up to our upcoming marriage.
Now he IS my brick wall. Not between us, but there for me to lean on when I can't stand on my own.
I hope you find someone with the love and patience to wait for you to take your own walls down. less...
I love that quote....I think walls are buildt around a person's heart from past hurts and pain. Only time (and maybe the right person) will break them down....if you are ready and open to that.
Quoting: Originally posted by RWGROOT60 Walls are about blocking yourself from making a mistake. You end up not trusting yourself because of the pain in the past. Celebrate the fact you care enough to feel pain. Be thankful you have ridded yourself from a person who wanted to hurt you.
The quote of your friend sounds good but it is utterly false. you must allow him in, becareful and trust yourself. You don't have to emotionally invest untilyou are ready
Quoting: Originally posted by RWGROOT60 Walls are about blocking yourself from making a mistake. You end up not trusting yourself because of the pain in the past. Celebrate the fact you care enough to feel pain. Be thankful you have ridded yourself from a person who wanted to hurt you.
The quote of your friend sounds good but it is utterly false. you must allow him in, becareful and trust yourself. You don't have to emotionally invest untilyou are ready
Oh so right, it is the pain from the past that makes us erect walls in the first place. Sometimes we do not even know we have then in place till certain issues arise and we begin to wonder??
Also, can we really expect someone else to be able to jump our walls if we ourselves cant break them down?
Nice to see another guy on the blogs who is willing to share and offer his perspective.
Walls are about blocking yourself from making a mistake. You end up not trusting yourself because of the pain in the past. Celebrate the fact you care enough to feel pain. Be thankful you have ridded yourself from a person who wanted to hurt you.
The quote of your friend sounds good but it is utterly false. you must allow him in, becareful and trust yourself. You don't have to emotionally invest untilyou are ready
I don't think it's a wall, so much as a comfort zone. I am a comfort eater, and have in time, devloped my own little comfort zone(lol!). I think that if someone is not comfortable in MY comfort zone (or if I'm not comfortable with them in it), then THEY are in the wrong place. Being fat is not Politically Correct, but I don't care. When I am ready to lose weight, then I will. Until then, I have every right to be happy as I am, and to be accepted as I am. If someone wants to love me as I am, more...
I don't think it's a wall, so much as a comfort zone. I am a comfort eater, and have in time, devloped my own little comfort zone(lol!). I think that if someone is not comfortable in MY comfort zone (or if I'm not comfortable with them in it), then THEY are in the wrong place. Being fat is not Politically Correct, but I don't care. When I am ready to lose weight, then I will. Until then, I have every right to be happy as I am, and to be accepted as I am. If someone wants to love me as I am, even better. Acceptance is key to me. If a man cannot accpet my faults, then it is highly unlikely I will accept his!--True less...
Walls are built to keep other people out or to keep you in. It does not matter how you try and pretty them up or make other excuses to why they are there. It does not change the fact, that walls are barriers.
Having been super morbidly obese all my life I have too had this concept presented to me many times before.
I could not and would not believe,.... that maybe I could actually be doing this to myself?
Walls are built to keep other people out or to keep you in. It does not matter how you try and pretty them up or make other excuses to why they are there. It does not change the fact, that walls are barriers.
Having been super morbidly obese all my life I have too had this concept presented to me many times before.
I could not and would not believe,.... that maybe I could actually be doing this to myself?
Then some things changed for me ( its a long story) and now I know better.
Maybe I will write a book about it one day, when I can pull myself away from these blogs and have more time. he he
Best of luck xxxx less...
