Sometimes we can confuse someone who is being " nice/friendly " with someone who likes us more than a friend. Also, with most everyone wanting to take it slow and start out as friends, how do you know if there is the level of click, spark and attraction that will eventually take you beyond friends ? I know when I like someone more than a friend, but how can I tell if he feels it too ? Back in the day it was more obvious....if he talked a lot, or touched your hand while t more...
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Sometimes we can confuse someone who is being " nice/friendly " with someone who likes us more than a friend. Also, with most everyone wanting to take it slow and start out as friends, how do you know if there is the level of click, spark and attraction that will eventually take you beyond friends ? I know when I like someone more than a friend, but how can I tell if he feels it too ? Back in the day it was more obvious....if he talked a lot, or touched your hand while talking, or walked close to you, or smiled a lot, or complemented you a lot. That would be easy indications that he's feeling me. However I have met many men who are quite reserved in every way. In some cases I would not have even guessed that they were looking for a partner if I did not find them on a dating site.
I even had a guy a loooong time ago who was always calling me and wanting to hang out every free moment and he would touch me on my arm when talking and we'd laugh and he'd smile on and on - So I thought that he wanted to be a couple. So I kind of asked him if he wanted to be and he was like, "no we're just friends. I just think you are so fun and cool to hang out with - you're like the sister I never had !" I was mortified and felt soooo stupid. He gave me every signal in my mind that pointed towards wanting to be my boyfriend, but I was wrong.
So those are the 2 opposite ends of the spectrum I have experienced.
What are your experiences ladies ?
And for the men, how would you show a lady that you wanted to be more than just friends if you are not the talkative or bold type ? less...
Just thought of a 'rude' reply Vegas...it's to do with a 'lack' of inches...in the manhood department. If you take out ... to, from 'into' on your blog heading...could be a whole new blog? he he. Wonder who i've 'ticked off' now? ha ha...do i care...xxx
You are tooo much ! I think we are evolving here on the blogs, and we might be heading toward that kinda talk anyway !
So will you be the first test subject we are allowed to " size more...
Quoting: Originally posted by ariesram
Just thought of a 'rude' reply Vegas...it's to do with a 'lack' of inches...in the manhood department. If you take out ... to, from 'into' on your blog heading...could be a whole new blog? he he. Wonder who i've 'ticked off' now? ha ha...do i care...xxx
You are tooo much ! I think we are evolving here on the blogs, and we might be heading toward that kinda talk anyway !
So will you be the first test subject we are allowed to " size up " ? less...
It's all about the little things that just add up - bringing you a tea on your break, going out of his way to pick you up or drop you somewhere, phoning you and touching base(communication), then moving on to helping do the dishes after a meal-maybe even doing the bar-b-quing for the meal, picking up some groceries for you and then completely catching you off guard and fixing your outside porch light without being asked - cause he noticed it wasn't working and then surprising you with tickets to more...
It's all about the little things that just add up - bringing you a tea on your break, going out of his way to pick you up or drop you somewhere, phoning you and touching base(communication), then moving on to helping do the dishes after a meal-maybe even doing the bar-b-quing for the meal, picking up some groceries for you and then completely catching you off guard and fixing your outside porch light without being asked - cause he noticed it wasn't working and then surprising you with tickets to the BNL cause he knows you love their music and he wants to do something for you and with you.
Watching the rain & lightning without needing to say a word cause he's into you and you're into him. Even copying a CD for you son cause he listens to what your son likes as well as what you like. less...
For me its the little touches...having your hair stroked whilst curled up watching a movie, having your feet massaged after a hard day,having your bath run for you and waking up to breakfast in bed...not every day, just the days you really need it and he's there to make you feel better.
Gee Vegas I find this one a hard one to answer myself.
I wish there was one hard fast rule to understanding men, but they still manage to confuse me.he he
I think that men show they feel more for you in different ways and can be easy to misinterpreted.
I've experienced the men that tell you that they like you, think your special and want more...makes things easy.
But the men that like to do things for you, spend time with you, and mumble about how they are feeling, make it oh so much more more...
Gee Vegas I find this one a hard one to answer myself.
I wish there was one hard fast rule to understanding men, but they still manage to confuse me.he he
I think that men show they feel more for you in different ways and can be easy to misinterpreted.
I've experienced the men that tell you that they like you, think your special and want more...makes things easy.
But the men that like to do things for you, spend time with you, and mumble about how they are feeling, make it oh so much more difficult. Your not sure if they are just being a good friend, not sure exactly where you stand with them.
Well as you can see i have been no help here, just as confused about it as you. he he
But if I had to put one thing that would give me a clue more than anything else, then it would have to be the way that they look at me, do they look at you with love?
Guess we need some of the males to get on here and answer...come on help us girls out. less...
I've asked myself this same question many times. I think other than coming out and asking or the man coming out and stating it straight forward it is probably a guessing game. If anyone figures it out please share with the rest of us...LOL
Non talkative and shy types don't really know, I am neither.
I have to say the direct approach is the one I like the best.You just ask her. You just do this" We get along well ,would you object if we started into the next phase of this freindship? "Then you after her Posative reply you hand her a box with assorted colours and flavored lotions and other nessaties for more intimate times together. Along with a nice pair of silk panties for her to match the silk nightey you got more...
Non talkative and shy types don't really know, I am neither.
I have to say the direct approach is the one I like the best.You just ask her. You just do this" We get along well ,would you object if we started into the next phase of this freindship? "Then you after her Posative reply you hand her a box with assorted colours and flavored lotions and other nessaties for more intimate times together. Along with a nice pair of silk panties for her to match the silk nightey you got her. less...
